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Some days I think hey, I've really got this nailed. In fact, I will probably be voted Mother of the Year. I have this totally under control.

Other days, I think I'm a total disaster.

Anybody want to guess which kind of day today is?

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You can't have mother of the year, I've already got it locked up.

A mother _something_ or other of the year. Yeah, ask my seven year old. He's the one that gave me the prize.

Hang in there, it gets better after they learn to talk. For a couple days...

Um... Total Disaster? What's going on?

LOL! Hang in there girl! It will only get better and better =)

Even if it's a total disaster day, you are still Mia's Mother of the Year!

Don't be sad -- you rock!

awww, don't worry, beth. you're doing great, i'm sure of it!

I'll bet total disaster. But here's hoping I'm wrong.

Cas
Hang in there!

IT GETS BETTER!

Hi I found your blog off somebody's BlogRoll- and I love your ramblings. Your daughter Mia is the cutest- and she has lots of hair!

About the post, yeah it get easier- I think. I keep being told this too, and my daughter is 4 months old. So I guess I'll know when she gets older. Heh.

At this stage in the game, when it's the very hardest, if you feel like you've got it nailed some days, even a few days, you're doing unbelievably well. Hang in there toots, have a glass of wine with dinner.

You are not a disaster! You just had major surgery, you are getting no sleep and your hormones are in a state of flux. You are bound to feel quite unlike the moms in the diaper commercials (who ARE those women, anyway???) Your baby is happy, healthy and thriving - you are doing a great job! Who cares if the laundry doesn't get done or if your hair doesn't washed that day? Mia will love you, dirty hair and all.

I'm voting disaster? chin up, tomorrow will be better. or worse? anyway, there will be a tomorrow!

I'm sure it's not as bad as it feels right now. And what's better is that you're probably so sleep deprived right now that you (and Mia) won't remember this in a little while anyway :) Good luck -- it truly does get easier.

I remember (hormonally, exhaustedly) sobbing late one afternoon, not too long after #1 was born, because I couldn't seem to soothe my fussing child. What kind of mother was I? Why did I ever think I could do this? How horrible it was that this poor child had such an incompetent mother! And my house was a mess! And I hadn't had a shower all day! And there was this huge pile of laundry, and nothing started for dinner, and I hadn't even begun to make a dent in writing thank-you's for baby gifts! And..!

The hardest part about becoming a parent? Accepting your limitations and imperfections. The good news is that, as Donna said, you are perfect for Mia.

#1 survived even my worst fumbling days of motherhood. Most days I'd say he's absolutely wonderful, but I'm too irritated at his adolescent self at this moment to be so generous. :-)

Beth this is just one of those days that you will forget about when she looks up and smiles at you, :) I promise it really does get easier.

wow, no one is opting for this being a "Mother of the Year" day? I will assume you are having a terrific day just for the sake of playing devil's advocate. So now I will say things like, "Enjoy it while you can," and "Congratulations, you deserve it!" Because no matter what kind of day you're having, there will always be some trite responses available. :)

Folks, I have some inside knowledge that it wasn't that first thing. Apparently I should start singing about vomit again.

I'm sure you're doin great Beth. Because, being as wonderful as we know you are, how could you do any differently ? ;)
Sending happy well-rested thoughts in your direction.

I would guess the second, and trust me, there will be many of those...but there are many of the other ones too never fear :-)

Sending you good wishes and hugs! Mia is beautiful and after you get through the first two months, you can usually get a bit more sleep....forget about housework...sleep when Mia sleeps! It is not easy, but it is well worth it!

And now, it is a new day. A
Mother of the Year day. :)

Hang in there! I am sure you are doing great!

I have learned to take one day at a time. My oldest will be 4 in a couple of weeks and my baby is 11 months old.

Everyday there is something different to handle and that is why being a mom is so interesting. There are good day and bad.

Just wanted you to know you are not alone! A great way to get through it all is exactely what you are doing and that is talking about your feelings.

ah..beth. I wish I knew what you were going through but I don't....but I've been through difficult times before and all I can say is hang in there...keep talking and discussing how you're feeling and don't be too hard on yourself. Both you and Chris are really new at this.

As for yourself, don't forget that you're young, cute, sassy and smart, you'll figure out how to put all the pieces of mommyhood together very soon.

Being able to weather the disaster days will help you appreciate (and recognize why you deserve) the Mother of the Year days. I've done the parental thing for seven years now, and I still have days where I feel I have no clue what I'm doing. The kids are turning out just fine anyway.

My guess is that it is a combination of both. It's amazing how quickly things change back and forth with a newborn. I am sure either way, you are enjoying the experience.

My guess is that it is a combination of both. It's amazing how quickly things change back and forth with a newborn. I am sure either way, you are enjoying the experience.

in a few months your gonna br crying because you miss this stage so much...I know that doesnt make things better, but it will all work out in the end...

i am quite sure you are doing wonderfully, but i can imagine it to be overwhelming...hang in there mama :)

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