Warning, whining ahead!
I've been a little reluctant to ask the internet for advice on my parenting issues lately, because it seems like every time I do, something about it makes me crabby. For example, I will ask for advice about what to do with Mia's hair and will say hey, I am totally opposed to putting it in a big stupid ponytail on the top of her head and then someone will tell me that what I really need to do is put her hair in a big stupid ponytail on the top of her head and then will get all pissy with me when I don't do that. And then I get crabby because I said at the beginning that wasn't an option and I shouldn't be held responsible for your poor reading comprehension and additionally get off my fucking back already. See, crabby. (Incidentally, I have started putting her hair in a big stupid ponytail on top of her head because it is really the only option and it has taken the cuteness around here to a whole new level. Remind me to post a picture.)
That said, I have a quandry and no idea what the right answer is and this isn't the sort of thing that is covered by any of the tomes in my vast parenting library but I think there is a good chance that someone out there in internetland has been here before and can offer very good advice so I am going to ask and hope you will give me advice based on the same or related experience, but for the love of god please try not to piss me off because if you can't already tell I'm starting from a position of crabbiness and if I get any bitchier Chris is going to have a very unpleasant evening dealing with me and I will blame all of you.
Nah, forget that, I love you guys. Nothing wrong with me a bottle of vodka won't cure.
Anyway, the problem. Mia is not a big fan of solid foods. Currently, she loves Cheerios like they are going out of style and usually has a few hidden about her person in case of a snacking emergency. She also loves crackers, goldfish, cheez-its, basically anything hard and crunchy and dry. She used to be all about the avocado, but lately she wants nothing to do with it. She will occasionally eat pureed apples or pears or prunes or sweet potatoes and yesterday even ate yogurt twice. She will not under any circumstances feed herself anything soft, wet, cold, or slimy. And lately, she will not under any circumstances allow me to feed her anything at all while she is sitting in her high chair. The only way to get her to eat a few bites of anything other than carbs is to let her cruise around the kitchen and follow her around with a bowl and a spoon and cram some food into her mouth when she takes a break from making out with the baby in the dishwasher or pushing all the kitchen chairs into the living room.
I've tried the hardline highchair approach, but she just refuses to eat and then starts to howl, which does not make for a pleasant family dinner. My question is, what should I do? Is it more important that she learn to sit in her highchair and eat, or is it more important that we get some food into her no matter what it takes? Am I building a bad habit I will regret deeply by letting her eat standing up, or am I damaging her health by allowing her to eat nothing but Cheerios and breastmilk.
Anybody have the same problem or something close? Anybody have any idea what I should do?