I do this really stupid thing. I'll be talking to some man (invariably) about car repairs or new tires or replacing the carpets or, yesterday, a termite and pest control contract. And I'll have gotten all the information about what is involved and the warranties and guarantees and the price, and then the man (invariably) will ask me if I want to buy whatever it is, and I'll tell him I need to speak to my husband.
This is stupid, because my husband doesn't care, and because after 15 years together I've stopped trying to force him to care.
I manage the money around here. I run the house. I pay the bills, deal with the workmen, set up the college funds and the retirement accounts. I've negotiated five mortgages and I'd be shocked if Chris could tell you within $100 what we've paid a month for any of them. He frequently asks me what his salary is. I'm the money person around here. I'm the house-decision person and usually the car-decision person and the kid-decision person. Chris mows the lawn, but when the lawn mower broke, I was the one who got it fixed.
I don't quite know why I tell people I have to speak to my husband. I almost never actually need his input, since either whatever it isn't significant enough to warrant spousal negotiation or we've already discussed it and come to a general agreement. Sometimes it is to give me time to think about whatever it is. Sometimes I do want to at least advise Chris of a major expenditure before I make it. Sometimes I think I want to give the impression that I am not to be taken advantage of or there may be an angry husband coming along behind be to crack some heads. But sometimes, there's no good reason for it. Just habit, I suppose.
Do you hide behind your husband?