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Dullsville Reprise

Well now, I didn't mean that I thought my blog was boring (but to everyone who told me "oh honey, it's ok that your blog is boring right now because we totally understand," um, thanks?). My blog probably is boring, but I don't care, because hey, I pay the hosting fees here, I can be boring if I want to. And I'm not bored. Well certainly, I am intermittently bored because this gig gets a little monotonous, but overall I am having a hell of a lot of fun at this mom thing. And I'm not blue, which frankly just isn't part of my makeup. Let's hear it for genetics, right? Eczema, fat thighs, bad eyesight, and stable brain chemistry.

I am witty and interesting on any number of topics directly related to infants and toddlers. I can wax rhapsodic about poop, and let me assure you that my sphincter soliloquy is not to be missed. And I read books and have a vague concept of current events and strong opinions on any number of topics which I am not reluctant to expound upon at great length. (But no, I haven't seen that movie. Haven't seen that one either. Or that one. Nope. Uh-uh.) But oh man, am I boring.

I never had much skill for small talk, or chit chat, or so much as opening my fool mouth around anyone I haven't known for no less than two years (or gotten very drunk with, six of one, etc.), and I have lost whatever limited ability I had in that area. Partly due to lack of practice, but mostly due to lack of topics. Parenting is my lead story. My children are beautiful and brilliant and talented and impressive. And that is what I do. All the time, every minute of every day, I parent. When faced with a situation where I feel like trying a conversation not directly related to how amazing my (or your) children are, I have no idea where to start.

Where do you start? What do people talk about? I honestly don't remember.

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Eczema, fat thighs, bad eyesight, and stable brain chemistry.

I'm just waiting for the bad eyesight to kick in and i'm exactly the same...

Pol x

I work outside the home and my kids are still my major topic of conversation. Once you have kids, I don't think that ever goes away. You are a parent 24/7, so what else can even come close to the magnifigance that is your children? My job isn't nearly as interesting as what my kids are up to.

I honestly feel like I don't fit in anywhere , so when I'm out and have to interact with others(moms)I tend to not make eye contact. I might be sucked in by their laser beams.It could happen. In my gut, if I feel like I have something to add to a conversation I will. Other than that, I sit and watch all the others. Then I write about them on my Blog :)

American Idol.

My kids are grown and they are still the #1 topic of conversation 98% of the time.

I have a wonderful step-mom who likes to tell me when I worry about my "kids" that they are never too old to worry about and care for,(and I do, all the time), that we are parents, "from the womb to the tomb". . . .!!

So, I guess that makes it a-ok in my book, to have them be the hot topic of conversation!

This probably won't make you feel better, but last year my daughter married and moved out of the house and this year will be graduating from college. I still feel boring and that I've lost the ability to chit chat. I work outside the home and my job actually requires chit chat and I find it so difficult. Thankfully I can rely on topics relating directly to alumni affairs, but still...get me away from that topic and I'm just hoping the event will end soon and I can go home.

1.) You're not boring.
2.) PuhLEASE don't start talking about American Idol. So sick of blogs that turn into blogs about TV shows.
3.) (I am whispering this rather than saying it loudly on my own blog) D. has slept through the night 3 times this week. I was using Mia's 21 mos sleep-thought-the-night timing as something to hold on to to keep me from freaking out, and was starting to freak out because she is 20.75 mos. And then she did it! Would you keep your fingers crossed for us?
4.) I have the same problem but with photography. How to keep the pictures less boring when they're all of the same subject? Not sure.

Kids are always first, but I don't think anyone wants to spend a rare evening away from them talking about them the entire time. Next comes work, sports, politics, finances, hobbies.

Ugh. Small talk is painful after two kids. I have no clue how to do it anymore. It's hard to carry on a conversation and keep two tiny people from killing themselves. I'm with Shannon.

As I demonstrate daily on my blog, I spend a lot of time talking about nothing. Nothing and myself. I wish I had funny kid stories to tell! Maybe I should start making them up....

I often have to stop myself talking about my kids when I'm in conversation with people who aren't fully IN the parenting gig right now. I'll think of a story... realize it starts out, "AJ said (X) yesterday..." and then bite my tongue. I'm very boring, too, is what I'm saying.

You mean we are SUPPOSED to talk about something other than our kids?

i'm english, so it's the weather all the way baby!

Doesn't everyone talk about poop?

Seriously, that's all I've got.

You mean that there are parents that talk about things other than their children? Huh. Fancy that.

The skank at PTA. That's always my lead-in.

if you watch Lost, that's pretty much all you need ;)

Work and kids are all I ever talk about - I am so boring, I know.

I work, but that doesn't make me less boring. As a matter of fact, I think my co-workers hate me because ALL I talk about are the kids and how did I tell you one crawls now? He's 9 months, and I get a chorus of yes, we've heard that and then they all walk away. So I have no idea, but I can talk all day and all night about the kids and it gets even better if I am drunk - or if you are - a least easier to swallow, I guess!

I tried to comment on your last post but I was denied. Was that a hint?

Anyway, I recently started a book club and invited everyone I knew to join. Sometimes only two people show up and neither of them finished the book BUT it gives me a reason to think about something other than babies, drink wine and feel somewhat smart.

Honestly, people like to talk about themselves. Asking the other person what's going on with them, what good tv they've seen or what music they've enjoyed, etc. is always a good way to start a conversation.

wait- what's a movie?

More often than not, ask someone about themselves and they'll take the lead. How do you know the host/hostess is pretty good, too. But I always operate on the thought that it's better to be boring than that person who never shuts up.

More often than not, ask someone about themselves and they'll take the lead. How do you know the host/hostess is pretty good, too. But I always operate on the thought that it's better to be boring than that person who never shuts up.

Hmm, I sure don't know. Just babies and how tired I am. That does not seem to interest anyone. We will be in VA this weekend, in case you are in the neighborhood, Mia could come over and play. Or we could size compare your healthy boy to the one that was born 3 days later but is 5 lbs less. Has not gained weight in 5 weeks, is on 3 meds, it would make for a funny picture I bet. See I can't do anything but talk about them, even here.

You know what? You aren't boring at all. You are a well balanced fantastic woman in so many different ways. You are truly a total woman complete with a good education, a quick mind and the ability to raise wonderful kids!
You, go girl!

Hey, at least you aren't one of those people who can only talk about how the world is going to hell in a hand basket. That gets old a lot faster than conversations about poop, believe it or not.

Just surround yourself with other SAHM's and then you never run out of conversation. They don't mind listening to how great your kids are, as long as you agree on how great their kids are too.

And, failing that, there's always funny/stupid t-shirt sayings.

I too am often feeling that I am out of the loop. But, I ususally have no problems conversing and I think that is because I see the person I am with. I begin with inquiries and comments about how they are doing or what they have been doing and I take it from there. It almost always flows very easily, unless I've misread some stuckup beotch who only answers with one or two words and a carefully turned up nose. And then I quickly move on. I have seven kids and no household help and live in a foreign country, so I must work extra hard not to be isolated and behind the cultural times. Sunshine.

I suck at small talk. I've gotten a little better over the years, but I'm never going to be someone who is good at or comfortable talking for the sake of talking. Now, if we get an interesting conversaton going, I'll happily paricipate, but you can't depend on me to initiate anything.

Well, at least you've got kids to talk about. Trying staying home alone all day, in a foreign country, with very little in the way of friends.

Last night at dinner, my husband was telling me all sorts of things about his day at work, conversations he had with his boss, how his friends took him out to lunch for his birthday... I had nothing of my day to give back. In fact, I think I said something like "I got my eyebrows done."

Small talk isn't my thing either. I try very hard, but most of the time I just don't really know what to say or how to say it. However I do talk about architecture & design (the new awesome slide on the playground) and city planning (the renovation of that playground and the way it fits nicely in the street) with all kinds of people (the moms and dads visiting the playground :)

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