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Babies, with the sleeping, or not so much?

Owen had his six month well check this week, and one of the stupid things on the stupid sheet they gave me was "some children may still not be sleeping through the night." And my first thought was, "some"? Some? My impression, based on anecdotal evidence from, you know, you people, is that it should at least say "many." Actually, my impression is that it should be "most," but then I got to wondering whether you are all just sparing my feelings, and those of you with kids who all slept through the night at three months or four months or hell, fifteen months are just generally too polite to mention it.

(Which would be wise, because my standard response when someone tells me that their little Susie started sleeping twelve hours straight at six weeks is "bite me.")

So anyway, poll time! You know how much I love polls! Today's question is, when did your kids start consistently sleeping through the night? More than one kid? Vote more than one time. And you had better believe that if the result is significantly later than 6 months, I am going to march straight into the pediatrician's office and demand that they change their stupid, offensive, judgmental, outdated handouts. (Gee, are we sensing I am maybe too bitter about a piece of paper?)

So, vote!

(Hey, remind me later to tell you what the Hotty Pediatrician said to me at Owen's appointment. It was positively indecent! You know, in my head.)

Comments (57)

Girl I feel your pain. Connor is 8 1/2 months old and still getting up 4-5 times a night. I am EXHAUSTED as I type this comment. But how come he seems so rested? He is all smiles this morning...isn't he tired too? That's the one thing I don't get. Hopefully it's something he'll outgrow soon. Mama's about to lose it.
Good luck to you...I hope it helps a little to know you're not alone! : )

Julie

first child slept at 6w... she loves to sleep. still takes a 3-hour nap at 3.5 years old.

second child turnes one today, still getting up once to cuddle. not even hungry, just wants a cuddle.

Rosie is now 8 months old. Sometime in between 6 and 7 months, she magically stopped taking an 11 pm feeding and yet still slept from 7:30 PM until 4-5 AM. She still has nights where she wakes up in the middle of the night and cries for a few minutes, but she goes back to sleep on her own now (thank all that is holy!!!)

However, I can't count on it always being this way - Violet, the 3 year old, recently went through a phase where she was waking up EVERY night around 1-2 AM requesting a drink of water. Luckily that has started to pass, too. But as a baby, it was close to 11 months before SHE was sleeping through the night.

I had one that I swear didnt sleep through the night until he was 5 or six YEARS old. . . one (the 3rd) that was probably closer to 2 years old and one that was (sorry!) immediately sleeping through the night. . . like at a week or 2. To this day he has never needed a bed time or anything. When he's tired, he goes to bed, if you tried to keep him up? You paid for it with inconsolable crying. Even if we are at loud, noisy car races! He'd just lay down and go to sleep.

I think the one who didnt sleep through the night til he was six made up for it tho. I've paid my dues :) and certainly feel your pain!

Aack! It wouldn't let me vote twice. I voted the first kid (3-6 mos) but the 2nd kid is 8 mos and counting. He's showing NO signs of being ready to give up the boob at night.

But at least he IS sleeping at night and just waking to eat...I remember (painfully) the days/nights mixed up thing. I still have nightmares.

Huh?? 35% of voters so far are in the 0-3 month category? Seriously? I think "bite me" is not quite strong enough!

My 3 year old daughter started sleeping through the night between 3 and 6 months. My 10 month old son has slept through the night about 5 times ever. By sleeping through the night I mean that he went down at 8p and woke up at 5a...the night isn't over for me at 5a but I can't get too upset if he sleeps for 9 hours. BUT...he's done that only a few times. Most nights he is up by 3:30 at the latest and then it's an up and down song and dance until I have to get up for work. Lots of fun!

I voted 3-6 months, which is true, but you didn't have a question for when did they stop sleeping through the night again which was 3. And it totally sucks.

My daughter is 7. She very rarely sleeps through the night. Like, maybe twice a month. She has always been like this. I'm waiting for the day where I won't have to actually get UP with her, because I am not a nice person at the ungodly hours she chooses to wake. My sister was the same way. She has NEVER slept through the night (unless heavily intoxicated) and she is 24. She lived at home until she was 19 and would STILL make my mom get up with her. I'm scared.

she woke up every 2 hours until she was about 21 months old. she slept through the night for a month and then started waking 1-3 times a night again. Now at 24 mos she sleeps through most nights but still wakes up at least once fairly regularly.

Who are all these people that chose 0-3 months? Why didn't I get a baby like that? Mine were in the 9-12 and 12-15 range. Which I don't think is too terribly bad considering that I was SIX YEARS OLD the first time I slept completely through the night. I used to wander in to my mom's bedroom and wiggle her toes (so as not to wake my dad up who would yell at me to go to sleep) and then she would walk me back to bed or go rock with me in the living room. SIX YEARS OLD! I tell you that not to scare you, but to make you realize that six months isn't THAT bad. It could be a whole lot worse...just ask my mama.

I suppose I need a clarification of "through the night" to answer. All three of my kids got to a 4.5 hour stretch of sleep by around 4 months, which we manipulated into being an 11:30ish feeding to get us through until it was time to get up(since I had to wake up at 4:15 a.m. to get ready for work anyway...) But honest-to-God, go to sleep at or before my bedtime, and sleep through until the sun is thinking about rising? That took much longer. And they all gave up naps very young in exchange for that nighttime slumber.

Maegan slept through the night at 3 weeks. I honestly am so scared to have another for fear that I would not be so lucky the second time around.

My boy is 5.5 months old and wakes up all through the night. Sometimes he does 4 hour stretches and other times he wakes up 5+ times.

Perhaps people have different versions of sleeping through the night. Whatever the definition, it's not happening here and apparently it's happening for all my friends too...jerks.

well, the poll won't let me vote more than once, but - three of em started sleeping through at 4-6 months (when I say through, i mean 11pm to 6 at least)
4 and 5 were more like 6-9 months.

my sister is still up every hour or so with her SIX year old?!

Bridget didn't sleep through the night until I stopped nursing her. She refused to be bothered with nursing and wanted a bottle around 7 months. The first day she was on all formula, she stopped waking up at night to eat. My feelings were a bit hurt.

My 3-year-old girl is still up in the night.

I chose 6-9 months because at about 7+ months we put him on his tummy one night, and magically, he slept all night. Now, I know that's young to do that, but we (I) was so sleep deprived that we kept with it. Prior to that, he did sleep longish stretches, but he was swaddled, in the swing, with it on full speed ALL NIGHT. So that doesn't count because a) totally not safe, b) I had to get up to check on him because I was afraid that he would fly out (despite being strapped in) c) I still had to get up and pump. Prior to us discovering the swing setup, he slept no more than 2 hours at a time, and that went on for about 5+ months. And boy did it suck. I feel your pain sister-try the swing and invest in batteries. You never know.

My three year old still wakes up 1-2 times a night and my 14 month old anywhere from 4-7 times. I'm convinced they will never sleep through the night.

I voted the last choice. AJ, it seems, would sleep through the night around 8 months, and that continued right up until... I was pregnant with KT. He wakes up and comes to join us in our bed now, joy.

KT's at 6 months and definitely still waking up once a night at least. Doesn't eat much, just wants to get up for a while. Sigh... I tired.

There were short stints of good sleeping (we're talking like 4-5 days) but she didn't really start sleeping through till around a year, and not super consistently until about a month ago (12-15 months) Baby #2 is due in a couple months so we're bracing ourselves. :-)

well, first you must define 'through the night' - i took it to mean consistently from 12-6 without getting up.

my three were doing this. all of them. before they were two months.

but i *know* i'm super LUCKY. also, i'm militant. i sleep trained them so they would do this. and i'm sooo glad i did!

Well, here's the thing: dp kids ever REALLY sleep through the night? Isn't there always something (teeth, separation anxiety, newfound freedom in a big kid bed, night terrors.....etc etc etc)?

My kids both started "sleeping through the night" by 5 weeks or so, both of them were moved into their own cribs by 6 or 7 weeks (on account of the successful sleeping). Now, please keep in mind that we define "sleeping through the night" as any span of sleep during the night hours, whereby the last feeding of the day could be considered within the bounds of a late bedtime (11:30 PM, let's say), and the first feeding could be considered within the bounds of an early wake up (5:30- 6:00 AM).

So basically, as soon as our kids drop that one middle of the night feeding, we're happy to consider them sleeping through the night.

Ok then, so "sleeping through the night" in our house happens around 5 weeks. But then at five months we start teething and then everything goes to hell.

i'd rather not bite you... sorry! :) but lola woke up only once a night starting at 2 weeks and then started sleeping 11-12 hours straight at 7 weeks. it was amazing. but she also had twelve teeth by the time she was 10-11 months old and each time a new tooth came through, we had some nights where she would wake up. she currently has no teeth coming, so when we put her down she goes right to sleep with minimal fussing and sleeps straight through. naptime is a TOTALLY different story........ and she's always been a small baby, which i attributed partially to her great sleep habits (no cals at night like my friends' big babies with multiple night feedings). so there are pros and cons! owen is big and healthy and awesome! that's why you're tired! good work, mama!

My kiddo didn't sleep through the night until he was almost three. It makes me cry just thinking about it.

Keep in mind that:

a) most people exaggerate (ie blatantly LIE) about when their kids start sleeping through the night.

b) many people have different definitions of "sleep through the night". Some see that as 6 hours straight. Some see it as 8, some as 10, some as 12.

c) a lot of parents count 3 good nights out of 7 as, "Oh yes, my child sleeps through the night."

And naturally, nobody in your poll fits the above criteria (wink, wink).

My boy is 2 1/2 years old and shows no sign whatsoever of sleeping through anything. His first stretch is reliably two hours, followed by a nice three hour window, then he's up and at 'em between 5 and 6. EVERY DAY. I don't remember sleep.

It won't let me vote twice. One was just over 2 years old (the one I voted) and the second was just over 1 - and that was a major struggle. I forced her because I couldn't take it anymore

Not to be an annoying detailist, but if the answer is "6 months" do I pick 3-6 months or 6-9 months?

So I only know one other person besides myself (out of at least 10 friends with kids under 1) who has a child who doesn't sleep through the night. It is enormously frustrating and my ped. at our 4 month visit said "don't even think about it" until at least 6 months. What the hell? How can everyone else have their kid sleep through the night and I get a "not gonna happen" from the ped. WTF?

I voted 0-3 months, because that is - for the most part - pretty true (noting, of course, that things really started to turn around near the 3 month point). HOWEVER, I wanted to put an adendum on my vote, saying that Sweetie would continue to wake up for 1 middle of the night feeding during this time. But that generally was routine and easy enough to get her back to sleep - so I still consider that sleeping through the night.

OK, Kara actually did start sleeping through the night at six weeks, but she is almost eight months old today and has STILL never scored those eleven-hour stretches I hear so much about. Plus, around month four, she started waking up several times a night several times a WEEK. Finally, after almost two months of torture, she is sleeping again, though sometimes she still cries out and needs a little help getting back down.

I voted 24-27 months, because that's when I had to stop getting up in the night with my son. If you forced me to vote based on the (silly) "through the night is 5 hours in a row" standard, then I guess I would have voted 15-18 months.

But I submit that through the night means I get to sleep UNTIL MORNING. At least 6 am.

Also keep in mind lots of babies sleep through the night in the beginning, and then stop around 4 months when they get more aware of their surroundings and learn the sleep routine is (like nursing to sleep). Both my kids slept 11 hours by 3 months, but before you hate me for my 'luck', know that I sleep trained both of them (then you can hate me for that!)

My first was never a good sleeper, and he was 15 months old before he ever slept through the (whole) night. At 2 1/2 years old, he still gets up during the night every week or two and comes into our bed.

My second was a much better sleeper from the get-go, but she was still 10 months old before she started sleeping through the night somewhat regularly. She's now 11 months old and she sleeps through about half of the time. The other half, she wakes up once and comes into our bed.

(Obviously, our bed ends up being pretty crowded some nights.)

I've always thought that "sleeping through the night" statistics were somewhat skewed by people who practice sleep training. Left to their own defenses, I think it's pretty uncommon for babies to sleep through the night before nine months (based on observations I've made from speaking to friends).

Honestly, overall, I have to say that the Mini is a pretty good sleeper. He was sleeping through the night (8 hours) by about 8-8 1/2 weeks or so. That said, he still would wake up maybe once a week or so to be comforted and went through appropriate sleep regressions at about 9-10 months, and would wake up 2-3 times a week crying until about 15 months. Most of the time, getting him back to sleep was easy.

He has his moments though, that's for sure. Like RIGHT NOW with the not napping. Little shit.

I did not fit in any of the options. My boy = 37 months old, and still calls me at least 2 times (average of 3 times) in an 8 hour sleep period. He also sleeps no more than 8 hrs at night and 2 hrs at the day in pre-school. I selected extended day pre-school for him just because he naps for 2 hrs there since he doesnt nap at all at home and still lives on only an 8 hr night sleep with average of 3 interruptions. My boy wins the championship for worst sleeper ever!!! I will never have a #2 only for this reason.

I did not fit in any of the options. My boy = 37 months old, and still calls me at least 2 times (average of 3 times) in an 8 hour sleep period. He also sleeps no more than 8 hrs at night and 2 hrs at the day in pre-school. I selected extended day pre-school for him just because he naps for 2 hrs there since he doesnt nap at all at home and still lives on only an 8 hr night sleep with average of 3 interruptions. My boy wins the championship for worst sleeper ever!!! I will never have a #2 only for this reason. so you may go ahead and feel better.

I voted with the age of #3 'cause he was the latest at 12-15 mos. The first two were younger (under 6 mos) & I have no idea what magic I did back then. Whatever it was, #3 & his sister #4 did not succumb! She is 11 mos and still wakes frequently.

Gasp! I shouldn't have looked. I thought for sure you were right, but I never should have looked. 0 - 3 months is winning, and I'm about to say a bad word to a bunch of people I don't know. For the record, I hate you and I hope you all get female pattern baldness, all you people with the sleeping 3 month olds. For the record I had to vote for 27 months, and must mention that this is only 5 out of 7 days. The other 2, a small person pokes me in the face or pulls my covers off to wake me at about 4 a.m. when he decides I should either walk him back to his bed and rearrange his lovey rabbit for him, or let him sleep with me. I guess I can take comfort in the fact that although I didn't get a sleeper - I got an eater. The kid has never met a food he didn't like, and frequently asks for broccoli, squash, salad, and grilled salmon for supper.

My kid nursed like a champ until like 22 months (even with solids...) He would keep me up most nights but once we stopped nursing he actually started sleeping through the night. Made me kind of wish I stopped nursing sooner (not really, I loved every moment of nursing during that time and I kind of got used to be sleep deprived... then I got pregnant again and had the baby recently and I remembered what I hated about nursing all night. SLEEP DEPRIVATION. sigh - damned if you do, damned if you do not, eh!?)

Easton started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks. And YES I know how lucky I am! :) I think God must have taken it easy on this first time mama. He must have wanted me to believe all babies are this easy and sweet. Probably my next child will be a hellion and not sleep through the night until they're in grade school. But for now I am thankful every day for my little sunny, funny, EASY baby.

I am a "bite me" person, but let me qualify - particularly since it won't let me vote again. My son, now 27 mos, slept through great from 8 weeks - 20 weeks and hasn't since with the exception of a few nights here and there. My daughter, now 7 months, slept through since 5 days (seriously!) until she was 5.5 months and hasn't since. I get a little break but then I'm screwed for, like, years.

I am a "bite me" person, but let me qualify - particularly since it won't let me vote again. My son, now 27 mos, slept through great from 8 weeks - 20 weeks and hasn't since with the exception of a few nights here and there. My daughter, now 7 months, slept through since 5 days (seriously!) until she was 5.5 months and hasn't since. I get a little break but then I'm screwed for, like, years.

(Why does your site never remember my personal information?)

Even after I look at the results, I still think the people who say 0-3 months are dirty, dirty liars.

Tavy's 10.5 months now, and no "sleeping through the night" here (I had to mark the final box). She's up at least 2-3 times each night. Her longest stretch is usually 4 hours. It usually goes 4-3-2-1, but occasionally we get 4-4-2, which is a treat. And evil nights (at least once a week) are 3-2-2-1-1. Oh and naps? So not happening.

She's been sleeping through the night (9 hours straight) since 4 weeks. Yeah, I know, I know, bite you. Does it make it any better that she doesn't nap much? Or that we haven't gone through teething yet? I hear that's a doozy.

6 months for both girls so far for real through the night sleep, not the 4 hours or whatever the official definition is. I agree with the many others who point out that sleep training is what helped. NCSS was a miracle for us -- no crying, solid sleepers, etc. Also a hearty dose of luck, from the sounds of things.

I put 0-3 but that was my second kid. The one still in my will. The first one, well lets say 2 years old. Since now at 6.5 years old, she knows better than to wake me up.

My son is 22 months and still wakes up at night. We are thrilled when we go a spell where he only wakes up once. Then the excitement ends when he starts waking 3 times. I still nurse, he always seems to be cutting teeth (you would think he had 100 teeth by now) or he has a cold... as Gilda Radner used to say, "It's always somethin'".

Who ARE all these people? These 31%? Daisy has been on and off (mostly off) and is 18 months today and only really now just sleeping all the way through with no interference from me at all. Most of the time it was just a quick fix form me but I think your poll was referring to sleeping through with no trouble. But I don't even like to write it down as it will jinx me. It sucks, but you know it will get better...even if it is in 1 years time. Hang in there!

Who ARE all these people? These 31%? Daisy has been on and off (mostly off) and is 18 months today and only really now just sleeping all the way through with no interference from me at all. Most of the time it was just a quick fix form me but I think your poll was referring to sleeping through with no trouble. But I don't even like to write it down as it will jinx me. It sucks, but you know it will get better...even if it is in 1 years time. Hang in there!

The last one, almost 4, still gets up everynight and comes to our bed at 3-3:30 am. It doesn't matter what time he goes to bed, and he wants his bup (cup). I do not get up to fill a cup.
He then wakes me up every 30 minutes to tell me it's still dark, until 5:30 when he goes back to sleep. He would sleep until 10 if I let him, do I... NO! Cause now the sun is up go play and get sleepy!!
The almost 12 year old doesn't sleep either, she gets up at about midnight to see if I need a kiss. Yep one that will tide me over till 3 when Jonathan needs to come kiss me.
Then when they do sleep, I freak that they aren't awake at their set times, and have to check on them and still get no sleep!

My first born finally started sleeping through the night consistently when she was turning 3....the same time my son was born...and we started all over again. I don't think I got much sleep for about...oh, seven years! They're now 9 and 6 and we're doing great!

okay it's at 31% for sleeping right a fricken way.....
how can i upgrade my model???????

okay it's at 31% for sleeping right a fricken way.....
how can i upgrade my model???????

Elliot totally wouldn't have been sleeping if we hadn't hardened our hearts and done the good ol' CIO method. We started around 6 and a half months and by the time he hit 7 months, we were consistently at 10-12 hours. I know most people want to believe I "abused" him by helping him find sleep but you know what? I became a lot better mother and wife when he started being consistent.

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