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Mia is generally pretty intelligible, a total stranger could likely even identify her rendition of "paleontologist." But there are still some things that give her trouble. For example, she is very proud to be "free" years old, and words that start with "j" sometimes start with "d" instead, like "jump." Which I how, one day this week, my newly potty trained (ish) child was running around the house saying "Mommy, do you want to see a big dump? I'm doing a big dump, do you want to see? Look, Mommy, that was a really big dump!"

(Ah the potty humor, it just never gets old.)

(Wait, yes it does.)

On a related topic, does anyone know how to communicate that pooping in your underpants is totally fine and everybody does it when they are learning and does not upset Mommy at all, but is also absolutely not the desired outcome?

Whoops - gotta go. Owen has trapped himself under the couch.

Comments (17)

Have her sump the underwear in the toilet and explain that accidents happen but big girls poop in the potty and cinderella (or whatever undies she has on) doesn't like to be dirty.

Or, send my babysitter over who got Michael to poop in the potty, whichever works.

I have no idea, but it always makes me feel better to know it is not just my kid. I think sometimes he is having accidents just to make me crazy.

We just went with the "Oh well, we'll make it to the potty next time!" and "Won't it be great when you can make poop on the potty!?" Yeah. Anyway. I just didn't make an issue of it, and we're golden now. It's a fine line between potty training and scarring your kids for life, isn't it?

While he was first learning, I dealt with the pooping in the underwear with an "accidents happen" type attitude. I like the idea of making him clean it up, but there's no way I could deal with the mess he would make trying to clean it up.

After I got tired of cleaning the poopy underwear and I was certain that he was capable of pooping in the potty*, I told him that I wasn't washing any more poopy underwear, and Thomas was going in the trash. I think I only had to throw a couple pairs away before he stopped doing it. Well worth the $5 for some more undies.

We still do pullups at night and at naptime though.

*This was happening a lot at school, and I assumed it was because he had no control during naptime, but the teachers told me he wasn't sleeping at all, just pooping in his pants at naptime. I was very tired of dealing with bags of underwear with 8 hour old poop ground into them. It's not so bad if it's freshly done.

I fully endorse potty humor.

I think we had elmo underwear and said something to the effect of "don't poop on elmo". :) Just like you're doing, we emphasized that doing it in the potty was the right way, and the only negative was that she couldn't wear that pair of underwear anymore today.

Hmmm, does Mia get upset with herself? Then that kind of gets you off the hook entirely. Then you get to be all, "Oh Sweetie it's ok."

Lady's pooped in her underpants once or twice and DID NOT enjoy it, so she avoids it. But she's wet her pants a bunch of times, and usually she gets very upset and apologetic and I just tell her it's no big deal, it happens to everyone, even to Jack Johnson (her personal hero), and we get her dry pants. She doesn't like the way it feels to be in dirty cotton underpants, she definitely gets the difference, so I just try and gloss right over it.

And I'd like you to know I sat here and laughed out loud all by myself over the really big dump.

With Miss A, who was upset, we told her everyone has accidents when they're learning and acted like it was no big deal. We also made her "wash" her panties in the sink after I dumped the poop out of them. And told her a million times to poop in the potty, not in her panties. And when she did we celebrated like she had ended world hunger. It hasn't been a problem since. We do put her in pull-ups at night though because she is a deep sleeper. Good luck.

With Miss A, who was upset, we told her everyone has accidents when they're learning and acted like it was no big deal. We also made her "wash" her panties in the sink after I dumped the poop out of them. And told her a million times to poop in the potty, not in her panties. And when she did we celebrated like she had ended world hunger. It hasn't been a problem since. We do put her in pull-ups at night though because she is a deep sleeper. Good luck.

I think the best thing you can do is call it an "accident" and approach it with an "uh oh, we had an accident" kind of attitude. Talk to her about when you are learning how to do something it's hard in the beginning but the more practise you have the better you get. You could compare it to other things she is learning how to do but hasn't quite mastered yet. Sometimes she gets it right, sometimes she doesn't but that is ok.

I emphasized that pooping pants takes longer to clean up than pooping in the potty. Because my boy couldn't have cared less about pooping in his underpants...but god forbid he should have to stop playing for a few minutes to clean up. I **might** have taken a really long time to get him all cleaned up after these accidents, too.
But you're on the right track with being nonchalant about it. She'll get there.

I sympathise with the j=d problem. My youngest couldn't say c/k sound so everthing then started with a t. It was funny when he came to tell me that he had seen a big titty and that it was the tutest titty he had ever seen! And this was at my in laws! We did have a big laugh about it though.

yeah, we tend to do the whole 'oh well, never mind, acidents happen' approach.

That way they get that pooping in pants is not the desired outcome (if they hadn't got that already) but (hopefully) arn't scarred for life either!

Sheesh, I would've guesses that Owen was too big to fit under the couch by now!
As for the bathroom dilemma, not a clue. Sorry!

Um, I don't remember our parents ever being so "worried" about scarring us with potty training. And it seems we were trained a lot faster and more easily. But maybe that's just me.

Personally, it was a four month struggle in our house to get Nate to poop in the toilet as opposed to his underwear.

Oh I can so relate with you Beth. Now, I don't want to jinx us, but we think our little boy, Jordan has finally got it. We have been trying, really trying for about 4 months and it's like a lot of people say, one day it just clicks in their little brain. This does take a lot of persistance, patience and time.
With us, Jordan would hold his poop until he couldn't anymore and end up pooping in his pants. Then I got nervous about constipation issues so I tried to explain to him that if he didn't want to poop on the potty then that was OK, but I told him to tell us when he had to poop and we would put a pull up on him so he wouldn't get Mickey Mouse all yucky. 2 Days later he was telling us he had to poop and that he wanted to go on the potty. It was close to being the happiest day of my life.!
Good Luck, it'll come sooner or later.

My kid refuses to poop on the toilet. So much so that he gets all excited when he pees in it and then has to add "but no poop!"

Yep..no poop.

Maybe next time.

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