Hey, is it customary to sell wrapping paper or grapefruit or other random crap to your friends and relations as a fundraiser for your kid's day care center? I've never heard of it before today, and it strikes me as... odd. Now sure, I am happy to buy your wrapping paper to help stock the library at the local public school in some underfunded district, and have even been known to do so to help stock the library in the incredibly rich counties where we've lived, but day care? If the day care needs more money, shouldn't they just, you know, charge more?
And yes I know, day care costs a fortune around here. But our solution to the child care issue was to give up my entire salary. Does that mean I can hold a fundraiser to buy more construction paper and glue for Mia?
I'm not bitter about it or anything, it just strikes me as... curious.
Oh, and supposing you received this type of request in the name of your delightful and adored (and by no stretch of the imagination underprivileged) niece, just as a for instance. Would etiquette dictate that you pony up?