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Chris was working the other night, so I was flipping through channels specifically looking for the kind of chick dreck that I can never watch with Chris around. And Chris has a pretty high tolerance for chick stuff (higher than mine in some instances), so I was really in the market for the bottom of the barrel. I ended up with How to Look Good Naked. This show is annoying on many levels. First, it isn't how to look good naked, it is how to feel good naked. I am all in favor of body-acceptance and confidence-building and that sexy is as sexy does, but I am opposed to giving television shows salacious titles specifically to suck people into watching them in hopes of learning how to disguise fat thighs when you have nothing with which to disguise your fat thighs. Add the wardrobe shopping (wardrobe=not naked), forcing the poor woman to stand by and listen while strangers on the street said forced nice things about the underwear-clad picture of her on a nearby billboard, and the stereotypically trite gay man quips from old Carson and I was deeply disappointed in my choice of dreck.

There was, however, one redeeming factor. At one point, six or eight other underwear-clad women were brought in, and our lucky contestant, who was primarily concerned with the size of her hips, had to guess whether their hips were larger or smaller than hers. She guessed that all of the other women, each of whom had a very nice looking body, had smaller hips than she did. Of course it came to be known that each of the other women had larger hips than our heroine.

I liked that part because I think it is almost impossible to look at your own body objectively. I think we compare ourselves unfavorably to others, and that if we were able to look at another woman identical proportions, we would think her hips/butt/breasts/thighs/belly were just lovely even while we rued that thing or those things about ourselves.

Can you think of a person who is pretty much your size? Similar height, weight, body shape? Are you sure? It is really hard to say, really hard to be objective, and nobody will tell you if you ask because they are scared you will be offended. I wish women (and men too, probably, although they act less concerned) could all be assigned an objective body double. Someone we could look at and say hey, her Mommy Belly doesn't look bad at all, or her thighs are actually rather thin and be able to realize that if it looks fine on her, it looks fine on me.

I think we would put 85% of the diet industry out of business overnight.

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I like that show - and mostly for the reason you say - because most of us are incapable of objectively looking at ourselves and our bodies. I would LOVE that part actually - seeing people MY size - because I KNOW I have distorted body image. (I'm a ray of sunshine like that).

Have you ever seen My Model? I think that is what it is called. I think Lands End has it so you can put in your measurements and it creates a virtual body double with which to try on clothes before you buy them. My problem with that is that the model is really smooth and tight. I mean, good for her, virtually speaking, but where is the baby ponch and the saggy boobs?

They put her on a billboard?! In her underwear? Hello, Nightmare #2,339! I mean, yes, that's awesome that they show her women with smaller hips than her to kind of shake some objectivity into her, but I'm stuck on the billboard. With her in her underwear.

i play the "is her _____ bigger or smaller than mine?" all the time with Gabe. he HATES this game. it usually ends with him telling me that i'm delusional.

I play the "is her _____ bigger or smaller than mine?" too. My husband has gotten so good at it he can see the direction I am looking and give me an answer before I even have to ask. Of course he always says "no" but I think he's just saying what I want to hear so he doesn't end up on the couch!

I play the "is her _____ bigger or smaller than mine?" too. My husband has gotten so good at it he can see the direction I am looking and give me an answer before I even have to ask. Of course he always says "no" but I think he's just saying what I want to hear so he doesn't end up on the couch!

Dude, I totally think about this alot! I'll be out somewhere, and be like "I wonder if that girl looks like me" or I wish I could see myself from afar!

I would love to be on that part of the show... the billboard part, notsomuch.

My best friend and I wear the same size jeans, and have often worn each other's clothing. But I think she looks incredible, while I am dumpy. Guess it's true we're not that different, but I can't seem to internalize this.

I have been known to start the "game" is-she-my-size? I am really curious and (I think) Tom will answer me honestly. It makes some people uncomfortable to watch us "play". I want realistic feedback and am not fishing for compliments or trying to trap him with the answer. I am especially curious if a particularly curvy woman looks great in her clothes. If I am shaped like she is, I will know what to look for when I shop.

Great post Beth! We have that show here too. Amazing how people have a "wrong" self image.

we play that game too! he usually says other girls are bigger than me and i usually don't believe him; but my body image is irretrievably f**ked. I live in los angeles, land of the size 00; and i figure skated as a teen which will screw with anyone's perception. i donít think there's much hope for me ever looking in the mirror and seeing whatís really there.

It is so true that it's difficult to be objective about one's body. When I was dress-shopping with my sisters before my wedding, we all tried to guess who had bigger boobs, hips, etc.

It turned out that we were all within a half inch of each other, and on most measurements we were identical lol.

It is so true that it's difficult to be objective about one's body. When I was dress-shopping with my sisters before my wedding, we all tried to guess who had bigger boobs, hips, etc.

It turned out that we were all within a half inch of each other, and on most measurements we were identical lol.

I have kind of the opposite of this problem.
I am not small. Even my Wii calls me "overweight". I'm 5'9" and 175 lbs and a size 14. Rollerderby type, and not ashamed, although I was 40 lbs less three years ago. I'm convinced it's glandular.
Anyway,a girl I know at work says she's ticked because she's in a size 10. But her butt is waaaay bigger than mine. Everything else on her might be a little smaller, but the butt is bigger by a lot. So how is this possible? I know (or feel maybe) like my butt is much smaller by far, yet I'm in a much bigger size. And I react not by getting ticked but by feeling even bigger, because if I initially feel her butt is bigger, but then learn mathematically (size-wise) it's smaller, then my butt must be huge, right??
Part of me thinks she is making up the smaller size. But I would think people fudge a size or two, not 6 or 7 sizes.

That should be the one thing you invent, as per Chris' hypothetical! ;) Brilliant! I don't actually know anyone my size...which is why I need to lose weight :P

I've only seen that show once, but I'm pretty sure I would fail that portion of the show too. I'm quite sure I have NO IDEA what I really look like.

My husband watches The Bachelor (my secret guilty pleasure show that even I am embarrassed to admit) with me most of the time and I love him for it.

There used to be this really great website where you could plug in your height/weight/size info and get a virtual model to try on clothes. It was awesome. I used to use it to see how I would look 10 pounds heavier/lighter rather than actually shopping with it.

Part of me has wanted for years to have a full body casting done- well, not full; just shoulders on down. I know my body image is extremely distorted and wonder if seeing my own size from a slight distance would truly shock me. I haven't tried googling yet but years ago there was a woman, an artist, who did body casting for women for body image and self-acceptance purposes.

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