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Alrighty people, I know I only use this blog anymore to get you to think so I don't have to, but that isn't going to stop me from doing it again. My brother and his lovely wife are expecting their second baby in October (OMG! NIECE! NIECE! NIECE! NIECE! NIECE! I am about to have a brand new NIECE! I am slightly excited.). I need a second-baby gift. They already have one daughter, and I give them every scrap of Mia's clothes that isn't so stained it isn't even fit to use for rags, so I feel that giving clothes would be carrying coals to Newcastle. I would like to give a baby blanket with her name embroidered on it, which I also gave to my extant niece, but THEY WON"T TELL ME HER NAME! Which is really damned rude, even though it is exactly the same thing I did twice. My standard second-baby gift is a tasteful selection of size one diapers, but since this is my NIECE I would like to do slightly better than that.

And that's where you come in. What did you really need for the second baby? What was totally worn out from kid #1, or what helped you manage with two kids, or what was just fun to have brand new instead of reused from last time?

And on a completely unrelated note, a Mia moment that I feel has to be shared with the world. At dinner the other night, Mia told me to "cross Salmon-I-Am off the list." To which I replied, "huh?" And she said, "My kids [her imaginary friends] don't like Salmon-I-Am, cross it off the list." She meant, of course, that her kids don't like salmon and it should be crossed off the list of acceptable foods. But come on, Salmon-I-Am? I do not like green eggs and ham. I do not like them, Salmon-I-Am. This is an awesome kid.

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A nice hands free carrier like a beco obi or ergo baby carrier.

Haha that's pretty good on Mia's part. No idea about the second gift. Good luck!

Depending on if their kids are off season of one another, a car carrier cover is a nice gift idea. http://www.target.com/gp/search/191-2600108-7407929?ie=UTF8&search-alias=tgt-index&viewID=drill-down&field-keywords=fleece-seat-covers

Also, 2 girls? What about matchy matchy dresses and/or a gift certificate to a photo place (either a nice one OR a mall one. I prefer the mall ones because I get my kids pictures taken an embarrassing amount). Depending on the age of their older baby and the attitude of the parents, I am only half kidding here - one of those baby leash/animal backpacks? If they have say a 2 year old and a new baby, it might be the peace of mind they need that big sister won't run off into the street while they are getting everyone's stuff together. http://www.amazon.com/Gold-Bug-53861-2-in-1-Harness/dp/B000V3NZ3K/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1251688621&sr=8-2

Lastly, Mia? Freaking adorable! Adorable without even trying (the very best kind of adorable).

maybe things for the mama? a pedicure certificate? fancy bubble bath? chapstick/lip gloss to help cure baby-kissy-itis? you know that feeling, when you kiss on a baby so much the first few month's it's born and your lips are all peeled from SOOOO MUCH KISSING? perhaps a gift basket of all those nice things you would have liked to have had for YOURSELF the second time around.

I'm trying to remember when we had kid #2, and honestly, I don't remember much. I know when #3 came home that I was surprised by how much stuff we *weren't* using this time around.

I think mostly what I appreciated was having things to keep my first kid occupied and entertained nearby, to keep her happy when my hands and lap were full of the new baby. You could go with a baby with a set of realistic accessories so she can do the same thing Mom is doing, or go high tech with computer games or a handheld gaming system (like the Leapster).

For the baby, maybe a new car seat cover or a pretty piece of artwork for her room?

I'm trying to remember when we had kid #2, and honestly, I don't remember much. I know when #3 came home that I was surprised by how much stuff we *weren't* using this time around.

I think mostly what I appreciated was having things to keep my first kid occupied and entertained nearby, to keep her happy when my hands and lap were full of the new baby. You could go with a baby with a set of realistic accessories so she can do the same thing Mom is doing, or go high tech with computer games or a handheld gaming system (like the Leapster).

For the baby, maybe a new car seat cover or a pretty piece of artwork for her room?

I usually get something with the second kid's name on it. (In this case you'll have to wait until she's born, I guess). I always figure that they'll have everything else they could ever possibly need/want. I get one of these: http://www.zoodonyms.com/ Artwork & a puzzle & personalized, all in one.

What about cuddly toys? When my youngest was born, I had some vague thoughts that my oldest had so many dolls and teddy bears that there'd be enough of them to go round. Turns out, (a) my oldest had completely mastered the concept of "ownership", and felt very sure that those toys were HERS HERS HERS and hers alone, and (b) she felt hesitant to entrust her darlings to a small, slobbering, destructive baby.

Gift ideas.
First, not so personal but handy:
White-noise machine (in all honesty, baby AND older sib could each use their own, to drown out the others' noise because their schedules will be crazy different.)
Soft baby toys. I remember feeling like I had to get rid of almost all of our rattles and brightly colored thingamajigs that babies like to hold and drool on, because they were all so damned HARD! They never seemed so hard with baby 1, but two years later when toddler 1 was "playing" with baby 2 and winging them at baby 2's face, they suddenly seemed like nunchucks. So I went out and bought a handful more of the soft rattly toys. Those things get pricey! It's a nice gift, I think.

A little more personal:
Baby 1 had a soft musical pull-toy tied to the side of her crib that was a cherished part of her babyhood. It was a duck. She loved that duck. Though she didn't need it any more by the time baby 2 came around, it seemed like it belonged in her baby memory box, and it seemed like baby 2 deserved her own special creature for that job. So an aunt got baby 2 a muscial giraffe. We love it.
And finally, there is NOTHING stopping you from getting a blanket with her name embroidered after she's born. There is NO way the parents will feel slighted that it took you 4 weeks to give the new baby her gift, when it is obviously so personalized and special.

I apologise for blatantly hawking my elder sister's mad quilt-making skillz, but she does some really awesome modern baby quilts and can customise (if you can find out the baby's name, she can embroider that on too) to the colours/style/size you like.

I've already commissioned two quilts from her for my friend's newborns despite them residing in tropical Singapore so since the baby will be born in your winter time I think it'd be perfect!!!

I always believe a quilt is the most personal and has longevity as a gift since toys will eventually be discarded as they progress from one age group to another but a quilt normally is kept for their whole childhood, even sometimes for life!

Check her out @ www.blueisbleu.blogspot.com

=)

Mia is a genius. I'm going to start calling salmon Salmon-I-Am.

For the gift: If she doesn't already have a good pocket sling, I used the heck out of mine with the second baby. They are selling really nice ones at Babies-R-Us now!

I second the suggestion for the white noise machine as well.

Lastly, I bought my cousin and his wife one of those Felicity Huffman designed rocking chair pillows from Bed, Bath, and Beyond and they LOVED it.

Yay babies! (we're having our third boy in 25 days!)

I second the sling/ergo/mei tai idea. I know I used a tiny fraction of the baby gear I had the second time around. Maybe a cup/plate/cutlery set for her to grow in to? I made samplers for my kids, my niece and nephew, and my cousin's kids (it's cheaper than therapy, but maybe not your thing). A classic board book the first one destroyed or never got? Happy Shopping!

cute bibs. most of them are so stained you don't want to use them again.

I give cute embroidered bibs. And if they won't tell me the baby's name...I insert mine "cutest neice of SPeckledpup" "give me to auntie pup" "cute as a button, just like my aunt pup" "got milk?" "spit happens" "hand over the paci and nobody gets hurt" "totally acting like a baby" "I burp, poot and puke and people say awe. What do you do?"

Peanut shell was my saving grace...that and my nursing cover.

Why not an heirloom baby spoon or fancy music box?

What about a gift certificate to a personalization place so they could order the blanket without sharing the name yet?

I appreciated the new diaper bags with my second. And yes, I received more than one, but you know what? I went through most of them and still use one even though my kids are 7 and 3. Snacks, drinks, toys, extra set of clothes per kid. Yep, we still use diaper bags.

The bathtub sprayer that attaches to the faucet was handy, too, and the more infant towels, the better!

I'll also be honest here. Not sharing the babys name with family members, is rude and annoying. And it is sometimes difficult for me to be happy about a new family member when the parents are being rude and annoying. There, I said it and I wish I could say it to a particular family member, but I probably won't.

I had a third girl after having twin girls, and I really appreciated many of the things I didn't "need". It's fun to have a few new cloths for the baby, I loved having a new blanket or two that were just "hers" etc.

Also, what about Robeez? I LOVED those things, but surely, even if they used them with their first, they would love a new pair... all of our used ones are pretty rat-baggy now. =)

The other practical thing that I "needed" was new onsies- the plain white kind for under outfits in winter. Seemed like all of the twins' onsies were pretty nasty and yellowed when I pulled them out of storage.

Prior to birthing baby #2, I purchased a moby wrap for myself based on recommendations you received either here or on your old playgroup dropout blog. I have to say that I love it more than any other baby-carrying or -holding device I had for baby #1. If she doesn't already have one, I think it would be a great idea.

And, um, hi! it's been awhile since I've commented (or visited)... it's good to be back.

Diapers & Wipes. I got a really cute diaper caddy thingy with a box of wipes and diapers stacked under it filled with all things for the bum. That was a great gift and very useful. A new boppy. But in all honesty I have three girls and sometimes my little girls just need clothes of their own. ;)

If you want to wait and buy the blanket after she is born check out http://www.imagethreads.com/ They have great stuff!

Some great ideas above! I am getting ready to have my third child and the things I am "hoping" to get are:

MOST IMPORTANT ONE......
diapers & wipes (preferably in size 1 at least)

SECOND MOST IMPORTANT ONE.....
formula

something to hold the baby in as mentioned above while trying to take care of an 18 month old (cuz that will be the age difference and what was I thinking!?!)

car seat (I actually need a toddler car seat. I have two bases for the infant car seat but in about a year I'm going to need two toddler seats)

A few new toys/clothes/blankets that the new baby can call his/her own

can't you just wait until the baby is born to order the blanket?? Then you'll know the name? no?

I just had my second daughter and really needed socks. Lol. I know it's boring, but we had no white WHITE socks left!

anything new that came out between one and teo that they don't have?

Do they have a bumbo seat? They weren't out when Michael was born but my friends who have them swear by them.

anything new that came out between one and two that they don't have?

Do they have a bumbo seat? They weren't out when Michael was born but my friends who have them swear by them.

anything that came out between one and two that they wouldn't have?

Do they have a bumbo seat? They came out after Michael was born but friends of mine swear by there's.

Cloth diapers are always welcome. More socks? New carseat?

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