May 26, 2005

Since you asked

A number of you have asked how you can jump on the bandwagon of sending unbearably cute things to my unborn child. I am very touched and honored that any of you charming internet people would want to send the Lima Bean gifts, but there’s a small problem. I am indescribably paranoid. So paranoid that Chris and I have vowed that we are not giving our address to anyone who doesn’t already have it because come on, have you heard the stories of people killing pregnant women and stealing their babies? Not that any of you amazing and attractive and did I mention thin people would ever consider doing such a thing, but my hormones are in charge of my brain at the moment so that’s just how it’s going to be.

And here’s the other thing. See, Chris and I are doing pretty well for ourselves (although I might get fired in a couple weeks which would change things considerably) and we could really get this kid three of everything she would ever want or need if we were so inclined. Add in two sets of insane grandparents and it goes to six of everything she would ever need. I’m trying to find a polite way to say that I’m loaded, so unless you are also loaded I would prefer that you spend your hard-earned money on you instead of on me.

However! Because I know how much fun it is to shop for baby stuff and because the very thought that people I have never met would send presents for my baby makes me cry just a little bit, I have set up an online registry here so that if you are so inclined you can send the Lima Bean a little something, for which, despite my bad attitude, I would be deeply grateful.

In return, I promise to tell the Bean all about the crazy wonderful internet people who knew her from way before she was even born, and also promise to make every effort to post pictures of anything you send being put to good use (although there is the possibility that will mean dressing up the cats).

Or... if you want to do something for the Bean and would consider making a charitable donation instead, please consider this organization.

Posted by Beth at May 26, 2005 10:43 AM
Comments

Hey, I'll take donations! I'll even come pick them up.

Only, because, you know, nobody ever offered to send cute things to MY kid(s) and I need attention (desperately) so I'm gonna clog your comment section with my BS whiny grovelling.

carry on...

Posted by: ben at May 26, 2005 10:55 AM

hooray! I completely understand about the being paranoid thing, really I do, but thank YOU for understanding that we love ya'll and deeply desire to buy cute baby stuff for the BEAN!!

Posted by: samantha at May 26, 2005 10:57 AM

killing pregnant women and stealing babies. ew. just ew. i'm gonna have to do a lot of work to get those horrid images out of my mind.

i'm with you on the paranoid thing though. i had a couple of small issues with people (read: guys) not understanding the meaning of boundaries. that's why you'll not find my name anywhere on my site and one of the reasons i don't let google index it. the less weirdos i have to deal with the better, no matter how attractive and thin they are.

are there books on your registry because the only things i ever give as shower gifts are books. cuz, uhm, i think it's never too early to start on the book obsession. :D

Posted by: patricia at May 26, 2005 11:15 AM

While it may not be quite as fun as sending gifts to someone you "know", people feeling the desire to buy cute baby things could always buy stuff and donate it to charity. I am sure there are plenty of babies out there who are not so fortunate as the Beanette. Why not pick something for the Beanette, take a picture of it, send the picture to Beth and then donate it to charity in honour of the Beanette. Just a thought.

Posted by: jen at May 26, 2005 11:30 AM

Hmmm that's probably a very wise decision.

Posted by: ::c:: at May 26, 2005 11:40 AM

Jen, that is a very good idea.

Posted by: Adi at May 26, 2005 11:44 AM

Well, I hate to be a heavy, but I ran into an army medic shipping out about a month ago in the airport. I asked if I sent things to the troops, what would they need. She responded that many of the children in Iraq need cloths. Specifically baby clothes. Medics are usually the ones handing stuff out to civilians who are injured or in need.

I know the lima bean needs stuff, but I think you have that covered. May I suggest, your patrons make a donation to the Red Cross or Crescent Moon ear marking it for children in Iraq or Afghanastan?

Just a thought.

Jef

Posted by: Jef at May 26, 2005 12:34 PM

I totally understand the paranoia. Wait until she's born! With my first I used to be afraid that while I napped someone would come in the house and steal him. Luckily it wasn't so bad that I couldn't take a nap (at the time I desperately needed the naps) but still, it caused me heartache. Now I just have to check that Mina is still breathing when she sleeps all the time.

Posted by: Ginny at May 26, 2005 12:45 PM

You are totally like most of us in the paranoid department...I compleletly understand. I did however pick up a book that I found amusing and bought it with the intent of sending it to you. Yet since then I admit I haven't made any attempts at actually getting it to you :) I'm one of THOSE people...procrastinators! So maybe I should just keep it now that I know your wishes...OR I could take a picture of EVERY PAGE and email them to you...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Posted by: Kate at May 26, 2005 01:08 PM

I am so all about the boundaries. I figure that if you are able to own property within the DC Beltway, you are certainly able to take care of your family. I'll offer nothing more than my continued congratulations!

Posted by: verucaamish at May 26, 2005 01:33 PM

Wow, you are even gracious when you say 'piss off you can't have my address' ;)

Posted by: Amber at May 26, 2005 01:43 PM

Great idea. The gifts are soooo cute!!! I'm going to have to get one 4 too...

Posted by: ava at May 26, 2005 02:07 PM

Okay...this totally explains the lack of response from Cactus when I told him I bought you guys a present back in April and wanted to send it....point taken, charity it is. Best wishes anyways!

Posted by: Jennifer at May 26, 2005 02:10 PM

Wow, you are beautiful, smart, have a rockin' husband AND you're loaded. Can we hate you any more?! =)

Thank you for the options. I second Jen and Jef's suggestions. There are so many children who don't have even the basics so if I ever have an extra couple of bucks, I would buy some ultra-cute baby stuff for charity.

You might also look into upromise (urpomise.com) and see about setting up the Bean College Fund so all those generous readers out there can contribute to the education of the Bean who is sure to cure cancer or write the greatest piece of literature since Shakespeare seeing as how she's got the most cleverest parents of all time. Lucky girl!

Posted by: Ms. Q at May 26, 2005 02:11 PM

I can totally understand about not giving your address out, I'd be paranoid too. And I'm sure you're right, lima bean is going to be a very lucky little girl! :)

Posted by: Emily at May 26, 2005 02:13 PM

You're right, Fishy, there are some crazy sumbitches out there.

Which reminds me, I need your address for a, um... candy-gram.

Posted by: Land Shark at May 26, 2005 04:32 PM

People are begging to send you stuff? You poor thing. For the sake of your safety, I am WILLING to give you my address and accept donations on your behalf....

Posted by: Amelia at May 26, 2005 06:03 PM


I am delurking to admit to thinking of sending a baby gift. Then I thought “she'll probably think I’m a crazy internet lady and rubbed in poison or something.” Reverse paranoia? So I’ll just give you the link to the one product that made four years working in an infant daycare bearable:
http://www.miracleblanket.com/index.htm
(I don’t know why they had to go name it ‘miracle blanket’ like some late-night infomercial but it does work like a charm.)

Posted by: jess at May 26, 2005 06:17 PM

Here, I'll give you MY address and you can send me all you want :)

Posted by: kat at May 26, 2005 06:32 PM

Hey - I've already got your address. I think I may have been one of the first with a wee gift for baby. And I'll look at that charity. I think I'd like to do that.

Thanks,
Carol

Posted by: cassie-b at May 26, 2005 07:26 PM


Hi,

I am delurking to say how happy I am for you and your husband. I love reading both of your blogs.

I think that it is a good move on your part to keep your address a secret. I am sure that you would not let the beanette share it with everyone on the internet, you should do the same thing that you would tell her to do!

My best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and delivery and a long happy life as a family.

Posted by: Kate at May 26, 2005 07:41 PM

WOW you are a lucky gal! I couldn't even get gifts from family members let alone strangers!lol!
Not even a shower... Sob.

Good luck with your bean!

Posted by: liesl at May 27, 2005 09:23 AM

you're loaded? cool, wanna hire a nanny?? lol...i wouldn't want to give out my address either, the online thing is a good idea :)

Posted by: lizabetty at May 27, 2005 09:32 AM

I'm going to sew him his own little lima bean outfit, whether I can give it to him or not.

Posted by: kat at May 27, 2005 10:00 AM

i am so glad your not giving out your address, (from last comment months ago) and also am glad to hear your doing well.....

Posted by: mojavi at May 27, 2005 11:30 AM

I'm not loaded, I totally get the paranoid thing (I didn't think about that when I first asked you if I could mail your unborn child a gift having never met any of you, but I totally get it now!), and I love to buy baby stuff. But I think I'll just be content with the photos of the stinkin' cute outfits that you and Cactus buy for Beanette. I'll be especially tickled when you post photos of her wearing those outfits.

Posted by: Jessica at May 27, 2005 09:29 PM

I don't blame you for not giving out your address - I knew someone who had their own domain registered to them - they posted on a message board that they were going on vacation, and when they got home their house had been completely ransacked. The culprit found her address by doing a whois search on her domain name.

Posted by: Marie at May 29, 2005 07:58 AM

Yikes!

I like Jen and Jef's suggestions too. Charitable contributions are a good thing.

Posted by: Jen at May 29, 2005 09:41 PM

I feel much better now...I am like you paranoid! Its the job! for sure!

Posted by: Gypsy at May 31, 2005 10:06 AM